Month: July 2019

No Mom is an Island, Take the Help

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Why do we struggle with asking for help?

There’s absolute truth to “it takes a village”. And I’m thankful for mine. I also understand that some people don’t have the support around them like I do.

It seems like I always need help from my village. And, they’re always willing to help. But, it’s still hard to ask.

When you ask for help, you feel bad because you know that everyone else is busy with their own lives. You feel guilty pulling them away from that, even though they’re more than willing.

You also feel like you should be able to do it all yourself. Everyone else seems to be able to without complaining, so why can’t you?

But no mom is an island. If you are able to reach out to someone close and ask them to do something as simple as hang out with your kid while you take a quick shower, do it! When visitors come over, do things around the house you haven’t had time to do while they visit with the baby. I’ve learned that people aren’t even there to see me anyway, it’s all about the kids! Put your visitors to work too! It’s okay to ask. More often than not, people will be more than happy to help.

Also, if someone OFFERS to help, take them up on it! A meal brought over or a few hours to take a nap is something you should absolutely accept if it’s offered. Don’t feel guilty for it! Those offering know what you’re going through and they WANT to help make your life easier. Let them!

And lastly, if you see someone who may be struggling, reach out. You may feel like you don’t have anything to offer, but sometimes just letting the person know you’re there is enough. A listening ear or an encouraging word can make a difference.

PSA: You Aren’t A Failure For Not Breastfeeding

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Let me say it again for the people in

the back: “YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!”

For some reason, women feel like failures for not breastfeeding. Whether it was by choice or not, it feels like a failure.

Not for me though. I feel absolutely no guilt. I tried. It didn’t work out. End of discussion.

And that reason is good enough. Any reason is good enough. Yet, time and time again you hear and see women say “I feel like such a failure”.

For what? Is your kid starving? Are they not growing, developing, thriving on formula?

Of course your kid isn’t starving! And of course they’re growing, developing, and thriving. Why wouldn’t they? Formula fed babies aren’t any different. So, what’s with the guilt?

You aren’t a failure because your child didn’t breastfeed. And it’s no one’s business why you chose to or not. Your baby is FED, and that’s all that should matter.

I Can’t Judge

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I can’t judge you. So, I’m not going to.

I don’t see your messy hair, or messy house. I’m not worried about your kid’s meltdown. I don’t even care that you’re feeding your kid pizza rolls for lunch.

You know why?

Because that’s me too.

And it’s all of us.

See, we all carry a lot of the same guilt. There are also parents who SEEM to be better than us. But, at the end of the day, if your kid went to bed happy, healthy, and safely, I don’t care how they got there.

My kids got mosquito bites today. But, at least they were playing outside. They had frozen waffles for breakfast, but I’m just happy they ate good.

If we focus too much on being a perfect parent, we’ll miss out on our kids growing up. Our parents weren’t perfect, and neither are we. We just have to do our best and hope for the best.